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By Fernanda Lewinsky, LMHC There’s a moment I see often in couples therapy. Two people sitting across from each other, both exhausted, both frustrated, and both completely convinced that if their partner would just admit they were wrong, everything would be fine. They came in to fix their relationship. But somewhere along the way, the goal quietly shifted. Now they’re here to win. And that’s exactly where things start to fall apart. The Tug of War Nobody Talks About Picture

As a couples therapist, I've seen it happen. The well-meaning clinician who becomes an unwitting tool of abuse. Here's what therapists and clients need to know.- Written by: Fernanda Lewinsky, LMHC I want to say something that many therapists won't say: couples therapy, when one partner is a narcissist, can make things significantly worse. Not because therapy is wrong. Not because the clinician isn't skilled. But because the standard couples therapy model was never designed f

By: Fernanda Lewinsky, LMHC Licensed Therapist Divorce is often framed as a failure. In reality, it can be a deeply human process of...

by Fernanda Lewinsky, LMHC There is hope Hey, you. If you’re feeling lost, doubting yourself, and wondering, “Am I the problem?” you...

I Like Sex… So Why Am I Never in the Mood? Understanding the Two Types of Sexual Responsiveness

By Fernanda Lewinsky, LMHC You Don’t Have to Be Fully Healed to Be in a Relationship — And Here’s Why We’ve all heard it: “You have to...

By Fernanda Lewinsky, LMHC I’ve sobbed into my pillow at 3 a.m., wondering if the ache of a breakup would ever fade. If you’re there...

Learn why the small stuff matters for successfull long term relationship from a couples therapist

Rejection is a part of life, but for some people, the experience—or even the fear—of rejection can trigger intense emotional pain and...

How anxiety over our relationships can impact them and how to start overcoming it.

10 Tips for couples who are facing addiction o begin the healing process