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By Fernanda Schiffer, LMHC · Skyy Counseling, Miami, Florida You planned the trip. You needed the break. And somewhere between the airport and the hotel room, something went sideways. By the time you got home, you were more exhausted than when you left. I hear this a lot. Couples come in after a vacation feeling frustrated, confused, and sometimes embarrassed. They'll say things like, "We fought the entire time," or, "I don't even know what happened." And my first thought, ev

If you and your partner are struggling whether it's constant fighting, emotional distance, broken trust, or intimacy that's slowly disappeared finding the right therapist can feel overwhelming. Coral Gables has a number of highly qualified couples therapists, but not all specialize in the same things, and the right fit matters enormously. This complete guide covers everything you need to know about couples therapy in Coral Gables, FL what to look for, who the leading therapis

By Fernanda Schiffer, LMHC There’s a moment I see often in couples therapy. Two people sitting across from each other, both exhausted, both frustrated, and both completely convinced that if their partner would just admit they were wrong, everything would be fine. They came in to fix their relationship. But somewhere along the way, the goal quietly shifted. Now they’re here to win. And that’s exactly where things start to fall apart. The Tug of War Nobody Talks About Picture

As a couples therapist, I've seen it happen. The well-meaning clinician who becomes an unwitting tool of abuse. Here's what therapists and clients need to know.- Written by: Fernanda Schiffer, LMHC I want to say something that many therapists won't say: couples therapy, when one partner is a narcissist, can make things significantly worse. Not because therapy is wrong. Not because the clinician isn't skilled. But because the standard couples therapy model was never designed f

By: Fernanda Schiffer, LMHC Licensed Therapist Divorce is often framed as a failure. In reality, it can be a deeply human process of transition — one that, when navigated with intention, compassion, and clarity, can offer healing and even growth. As a therapist who works with couples before, during, and after separation, I believe that even during divorce, respect, empathy, and emotional intelligence can guide us toward healthier outcomes — for both partners and, if applicab

by Fernanda Schiffer, LMHC There is hope Hey, you. If you’re feeling lost, doubting yourself, and wondering, “Am I the problem?” you might be in a narcissistic abusive relationship. As a therapist, I’ve seen how these relationships crush your confidence with shame and self-doubt. You’re not alone, and you’re not the problem. Here’s what you’re going through and how to break free—starting now. What It Feels Like You know that heavy feeling—like you’re never enough? That’s narc

I Like Sex… So Why Am I Never in the Mood? Understanding the Two Types of Sexual Responsiveness

By Fernanda Schiffer, LMHC You Don’t Have to Be Fully Healed to Be in a Relationship — And Here’s Why We’ve all heard it: “You have to love yourself before someone else can love you.” It’s one of those well-intentioned phrases that floats around in the wellness space — catchy, simple, and seemingly wise. And while there’s some truth in it, it can also be misleading and, at times, even harmful. Let’s talk about it. As a therapist, I absolutely advocate for doing your inner wo

By Fernanda Lewinsky, LMHC I’ve sobbed into my pillow at 3 a.m., wondering if the ache of a breakup would ever fade. If you’re there...

Learn why the small stuff matters for successfull long term relationship from a couples therapist

By: Fernanda Schiffer, LMHC Rejection is a part of life, but for some people, the experience—or even the fear—of rejection can trigger intense emotional pain and self-doubt. This heightened sensitivity, known as rejection dysphoria, is more than just disliking criticism or fearing disapproval. It’s an overwhelming emotional response to perceived rejection that can feel unbearable and deeply personal. If you’ve ever felt like even small rejections hit you harder than they shou

How anxiety over our relationships can impact them and how to start overcoming it.

10 Tips for couples who are facing addiction o begin the healing process